How to Stay in Love for the Rest of Your Life
With Valentine’s Day (one of my favorite holidays) just around the corner, I figured it’s a good time to write about love.
I’m no expert, but I’m always ready and willing to learn about love. One of my favorite pieces is a blog posting about emotional intimacy and communication and how it relates to love as written in the Torah.
I’ve taken some time off from becoming emotionally involved with anyone the past couple years because sometimes you just need to take a step back and evaluate your life. Evaluate your values, learn more about yourself, how you communicate, what is important to you, and how to properly relate emotionally with another human being.
Saturday, I had a nice long chat with a friend and her boyfriend about their relationship. I was fascinated by how safe the space was that they had created for communication, and how honest they were about the way they individually think and function. It was amazing to be a part of that, and to recognize the people who have worked with me to build safe spaces that allow us to share how we honestly think and feel at any given time.
Yesterday I spoke with an old friend I haven’t seen in almost 10 years and realized that over the years we have created a space to communicate openly and honestly–where I can truly express my emotions without questioning them and whether or not to share them. This is a pretty rare thing for me to feel, since over the years I’ve become more guarded and calculated. Even more so with someone I don’t know that well. However, going forward, I’ve committed to being more emotionally honest with myself about how I really think feel, and it’s been helpful. I’m taking time to really process/understand my feelings, practice patience, and overcome fears I’ve managed to create from my past experiences.
Eleanor Roosevelt said, “Do something every day that scares you.” Well, Eleanor…I think I’m ready.
How well do you understand who you are and how you feel?